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The Beginner’s Guide to Bondage Play

on May 05, 2019

Sex must be a dynamic and exciting activity for couples. However, there may be times that both of you may feel a bit bored and want to experience a new dimension for your sexual routine.

If you want to take your sex life to another level and try something new, you can start it off by trying bondage play. Unfortunately, not everyone is familiar with bondage.

Thus, here is a beginner’s guide to bondage play that can help you.

What is Bondage Play?

Bondage is an erotic roleplaying. It is an act of achieving sexual gratification which involves binding, tying or restraining a partner.

It is done for aesthetic or somatosensory/tactile stimulation. Bondage play is not just about physical restraint but also about mind control with your partner.

Submissive vs. Dominant vs. Switch

In a bondage play, there is a submissive and a dominant partner. The submissive partner or “bottom” is the one who receives stimulation from a partner. On the other hand, the dominant partner or “top” is the one who applies stimulation to another.

There is also another role which is a switch. They are the ones who take the role as the dominant and sometimes as a submissive. Moreover, they are referred to as being versatile.

The best way to find out your role is to experiment with your partner. Even though you are a dominant person at work, you may enjoy and love to take the role of the submissive in bed.

You may also take both roles and switch in every session. Learn to find the perfect balance that will suit your personalities.

Why you should try bondage

Bondage can be overwhelming and satisfying for both partners when it is done right. Below are the reasons why you should try it.

  • Bondage can add a new dimension to your sex life.
  • It can spice up your boring sex life.
  • It provides new ways on how to connect effectively with your partner.
  • It makes endorphin rush high which results in a positive feeling in the body.
  • It increases sexual pleasure.

Bondage play will not be more pleasurable without the help of sex toys and accessories. It is available in different kinds, shapes and sizes. 

Toys/accessories for bondage play

There is a wide range of choices when it comes to bondage sex toys. Here are some of the most common toys used by couples.

  • Rope

It is used to restrict the movement of your partner. There are ropes that are specifically used for bondage play. They are gentler to the skin than the regular hardware store rope.

  • Blindfold

Blindfolds are great for sensory deprivation which is the act of depriving one sense to enhance the others. Using blindfolds build anticipation as you do not know what your partner is going to do next.

When using blindfolds, just make sure that it is comfortable to wear around the eyes.

  • Cuffs

Cuffs are used to restrict and keep a submissive partner in place. You can lock a sub on a chair, table or bedpost. For beginners, try to use padded cuffs since they are more comfortable and can be used on ankles. Before using any handcuffs, it is important to familiarise yourself on the toy first.

  • Flogger

While being tied up, the dominant partner can use a special type of flogger intended for bondage play. Floggers will only tingle for a while. It will also give you a satisfying and exciting sensation that is perfect for every bondage play.

  • Collars

Collars are excellent choice for beginners. There are different kinds of collars available today. Leather collars are commonly used by beginners. You can also use collars that are more fashionable and collars that is locked with a key.

  • Gag ball

Gag balls are bondage toys that go on, inside or around your mouth. It is also available in different styles such as classic ball gags, forniphilic gag, and breathable gags for beginners. It is important to take your time learning how to use a gag.

Useful reminders and tips

  • Set the scene

It is important to start the scene right. Avoid getting tied up in isolated places especially with a person you don’t know very well.

To get you in the mood, you can turn up your music box. Music can be very emotive and enhances your bondage experience.

  • Start slow

In every erotic activity, it is important to always start slow. Bondage is difficult for beginners. It is like walking a fine line between the feeling of pleasure and pain.

Try each step one at a time. It takes more patience to fully enjoy this act.

  • Communication and trust is important

Communication is important in every sexual act. Introduce bondage play to your partner and explain how satisfying it can be to both parties. Furthermore, make sure that you both understand your limits. Share your concerns when it comes to your comfort levels.

Also, you have to trust your partner more than anything else. You are giving yourself to your partner with confidence, thus, enriching your relationship as a couple.

  • Pick a safe word

Safe word is an unambiguous sign for couples to stop or slow down a certain activity during a sexual routine. It is something you and your partner should talk about before you start your bondage play.

A safe word doesn’t mean that your bondage play comes to an end. It is only a signal that your partner feels uncomfortable or is not enjoying the experience.

  • Keep things simple

Since you are just starting off with bondage play, do not be overwhelmed by the variety of sex toys that are available. You can start with a simple blindfold to feel more aroused. In this way, you are not overcomplicating things as you go on your first bondage play experience.

Conclusion

Bondage play can be intimidating and difficult if you are a beginner. Following this guide can help you start your bondage experience seamlessly. In the end, you will realise that bondage play is an effective way to enhance your sexual relationship with our partner.

If you want to give bondage play a try, visit an online adult shop that provides the sex toys/accessories that were stated above.

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