The Beginner's Guide on How to Use Dildos – The Sex Garden
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The Beginner's Guide on How to Use Dildos

on May 03, 2019

Dildos or dongs are “do-it-yourself” sex toys that are usually phallic in appearance. Compared to a vibrator, dildo cannot move on its own. Unlike vibrator, it has to use it manually with human being's hands or place it to somewhere for use. It is all up to the creativity of the user on how to enjoy the sex toy.

These toys come in many shapes and sizes so you have a wide range of options to choose from. Unluckily, there are no instructions on how to use these sex toys. This is the challenging part since instruction manuals are not commonly included when an adult toy is bought.

To help you, this blog post is specially written for those who need an beginner's guide on how to use dildos.

Choose the right dildo

Since dongs come in different sizes and shapes, you have to choose the right one for you. There are many factors when it comes to choosing. Here are some of them:

  • Colour - which colour is best? Picking the wrong colour can turn a person off.
  • Size - Bigger isn’t always better. If you are not sure on which size to pick, just think about the things that you have used for penetrating yourself. If you have never been penetrated, better start with the smallest size.
  • Sensitivity - One may be allergic to a certain type of chemical in the dildo. If one is allergic to plastic, better opt for a silicone one. If you are not sure, use a condom to protect yourself. Safaty always comes first when using sex toys and condom usually protects you.

Know the dildo

There are different types of dildos. There are vaginal dildos and the anal ones. Vaginal dildos are designed to be curved or double pronged to effectively stimulate a woman’s G-spot. Anal dongs are made specifically for anal play.

These toys usually have a wide base to prevent it from sliding in. Some dildos also have special vibrating options that can be positioned against the clitoris

Get into the mood

Before starting any sexual activity, one should always be in the mood. You can do anything that can make you feel aroused. Lock the doors, dim the lights, open some adult websites…do whatever gets you in the mood. Your partner can also kiss you or caress your nipples.

Test the dildo first

It is always a good idea to inspect your sex toys before using them. Check all the sides of the toy for any sharp edges or tears around it. In this way, you may be able to have some confidence and concentrate on the sensation without being distracted.

Use a compatible lubricant

A personal lubricant is a specialised lube that is used during any sexual activity. It is essential for easier penetration.

For sex toys, the safest lubricant to use is water-based. Never use silicone-based lubes on silicone toys because they can cause damage to the adult toys. Also, oil-based lubes can damage rubber and latex toys.

So when using your preferred lube, put a generous amount of it on the toy and in your private parts to ensure easier and more pleasurable penetration. If you are using an anal dildo, make sure to apply enough lube on your anus and on the sex toy from time to time.

Start slowly and gently

Since a dong is a foreign object, like a penis or a finger, your body has to get ready before inserting it. Thus, it is necessary to always be gentle when starting off. If you thrust and try to force it to insert, you may experience severe pain and discomfort.

Test and Experiment

Now that the body has adjusted to the adult toy, one may now experiment and explore different sensations. You can go faster or deeper. You can even alternate the methods of enjoying it.

It is all up to the person on which make them feel good. You and your partner may try different things together or try various positions to discover which feels good and which does not.

Play with the clitoris

Most women love and enjoy clitoral stimulation during penetration. It can be done using the fingers or with a vibrator while thrusting the dildo. Just gently stroke the clitoris up and down until orgasm is reached.


Using a dildo is not a difficult thing to do. This sex toy might even be the key to unlocking the doors to a better sexual experience.

You should not be embarrassed about trying a dildo out. It is worth the experience and many people have testified to this. If you don’t have any dildo yet, why not buy one and try it yourself?


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